Thursday, October 8, 2009

Non-Maternal Instincts

Nonmaternal Instinct

I swore I wouldn't be this way.

Having spent two years studying childhood development, specifically the personal, social, emotional, and academic development of children, I became quite disgusted with parents who overbearingly forced their children to be (or to not be) a certain way. For instance, the mom who shows up at school in hysterics when her daughter doesn't make the cheer squad in seventh grade. Yeah, it sucks and it hurts, but seriously lady, who wants this more? You or your working-on-building-self-esteem, yes-I'm-going-through-my-awkward-stage pre-teen? Dude, just give her a hug, let her shed a few tears on your shoulder, and help her move on. Don't make it worse.

And I think it can be even uglier with boys. Let's face it, most dads don't want to see their sons playing dress-up with mommy's lip gloss and stilettos. But it happens, trust me (Sorry, honey, that's just what the little guy does to stay entertained while I'm in the shower.)

But I swore I would not be that way. I would not flinch when my son started trying on my bra or asking to paint his toenails. You will not hear me say, "No, buddy, boys don't wear nail polish. Boys wear dirt and play games that result in bruises and blood shed." No, ma'am. I will let my son explore life no matter how, no matter what. Let him play with dolls and try-on jewelry. He's only a kid. So what?

Ha.

Ha.

Look what happened when I found this picture on my sister's facebook wall:


Ali Hooper
Ali Hooper
Is Henry playing with a princess crown?
about an hour ago · Delete
Morgan Nameth
Morgan Nameth
He was taking the stickers off Ellas crown
about an hour ago
Ali Hooper
Ali Hooper
Okay, so he was destroying the pink princess crown? And that baby doll in the corner, I take it the boys were playing WWE and she was an innocent bystander. Am I right?
15 minutes ago · Delete

I couldn't help myself. I saw my boy, I saw the pink crown, and I just had to know. Had to.

And I swore I wouldn't be this way.

I'll just chalk this up to one more thing that I swore I wouldn't do once I became a mom. But now that I am a mom, that list was sent out with the dirty diapers. Also on that list was co-sleeping, letting my kids watch cartoons all day long, feeding my kids processed and pre-packaged foods, and allowing my kids to play with the dog food and water. I could go on and on. It was a mighty long list.

But let me make one thing clear. I will never be like that mom who freaks out when her daughter doesn't make the cheer squad. That is where I draw the line. Why? Because my daughter would never try out for cheer, that's why.

{wink}

5 comments:

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  2. Soooo funny! If it makes you feel better, there have been numerous times that my nephew has rocked some nail polish on his toes because his sister had it on hers. I love the WWE idea with the doll!

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  3. before we got married, i made bobby swear that he would never let any of our daughters cheer. even if i died and he was a single dad. not sure why that's so totally non-negotiable in my world. but it is. now if my son wanted to cheer...well, i can't even fathome a way to end that sentance.

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  4. We all have list before we have our kids and then...we get real! The game is totally different when we are in the thick of parenting. Our kids trying out the dog food becomes less of a shocker when you have another child screaming, and in need of immediate attention. The real important part of parenting is about guiding their little hearts! You are an awesome mom!!

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  5. Ali. I love reading your blog because it's so well-written and hilarious! You guys crack me up.

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